- a person who can endure pain or hardship without showing their feelings or complaining.
- a member of the ancient philosophical school of Stoicism.
The single most important practice in stoic philosophy is differentiating between what you can change/control and what you cannot.
Have been hearing a lot of ‘Think Positive’ for a long time now and have seen this applied in places resulting in emotional damages. Mostly because, in reality, your expectations might not be met. This scenario fits in many places, like disease diagnosis, injury, career choices,.. Certain things we humans take for granted during course of life, when goes south, affects us emotionally. Worst case, it cascades into our forthcoming actions.
One of the teachings I had put to practice in this context was ‘contemplating death’. If you don’t take ‘death’ literally, rather as a ‘worst case’, contemplate about it as a routine, the way you perceive the impending situations changes.
To start with, what if you wake up in the morning and think about the worst that could happen to you during the course of the day. For example: You might be treated with disrespect, yelled at by someone, injure yourself, etc .. When you realize within that these are the worst possibilities that could happen and tweak your expectations accordingly, your mind subconsciously prepares actions to be taken when the worst happens. As the day goes on, even if the worst happens, your reflections on the same would be relatively well thought of.
When this becomes a routine and you slowly start contemplating the worst in the bigger picture, say, death of a family member, losing your job, meet with an accident, .. you start valuing the current moment and reflect the same in your actions.
“Right actions in the future are the best apologies for bad actions in the past. – Tryon Edwards